The collaborative divorce process seeks solutions allowing each person impacted by a divorce – especially children – to have the best post-divorce lives possible.
What is Collaborative Divorce?
Collaborative Divorce is the healthy team based process of uncoupling in which you and your spouse will each have your own specially trained and experienced Collaborative Divorce attorney and team of neutral mental health and financial professionals who work through the issues of your case, with you, using a method known as “interest-based negotiation,” which enables each of you to formulate agreements that focus on their most important individual and family oriented goals. I prefer to call it the “Healthy Divorce”.
8 C’s of Collaborative Divorce
The Collaborative Divorce process is a private and confidential process. Just as in a traditional divorce, each of you will have confidential conversations with your attorney and a strategy for accomplishing your goals in the case, but in the Collaborative Divorce process, those goals are reached without destroying your relationship with your spouse or exhausting your community estate on a court battle.
Collaborative Divorce professionals manage this confidential process — in an office rather than a courtroom setting — that provides the resources, structure and emotionally safe space needed for a divorcing couple to consider their unique situation and arrive at a mutually-agreeable settlement–outside the eye of the public.
The Collaborative Divorce process provides divorcing couples an innovative alternative to a traditional courtroom divorce. In this process, a stranger (a judge) will not be controlling your money, your children, or your future.
Instead, the divorcing couple works with specially trained Collaborative Divorce professionals — and without court interference — to arrive at a creative and customized solution, just for them, that will deliver the most positive outcome possible for the couple and the family.
The Collaborative Divorce process results in solutions that enable each person impacted by a divorce – especially children – to have the best post-divorce lives possible.
Parents divorcing collaboratively are better able to protect their children from the damaging effects of a highly contentious divorce and preserve more of their mutual respect for each other as parents.
In this process, the children have a voice, via mental health professionals, which holds all parties accountable for working as a team and in their best interest at all times.
The Collaborative Divorce process is a more cost-effective and efficient process than a traditional divorce. It is structured so that divorcing couples work with specially trained professionals to resolve financial, parenting, and other pertinent issues. It’s a process that enables couples to invest directly in solutions rather than costly litigation. It’s Client, Child and Family Centered
When all parties are working on common goals, this can reconnect families that have been disconnect through marital conflict. This process helps all family members, even extended family, learn how to move forward in a positive way – focused on the future, rather than dwelling on arguments and disputes of the past. Many couples report that they were able to heal and recover from the grief of the marriage loss during this process which made for easier and healthier co-parenting following the divorce.
The Collaborative Divorce approach is a settlement process that focuses on helping couples and their families find their way to respectful resolution, creating an emotionally safe environment for the parties to express their interests and goals, negotiate and resolve their conflict without going to court. Due to the flexibility of the process, you have the power to be creative in your marital settlement agreement.
Collaborative Divorce operates on a family’s schedule. Couples have the flexibility to schedule meetings with their collaborative team when all participants are best able to meet, unlike the litigation process in which clients are subpoenaed for depositions and court hearings without consideration for their own schedules. The process also allows for flexibility on the timeline of the divorce for those who feel a need to take their time or speed up the process.
The Collaborative Divorce process recognizes that, even though a marriage may be ending, relationships and obligations often continue, especially when children are involved. It allows spouses to formulate agreements that focus on their most important individual and mutual goals.